my take on infidelity

Lagi nilang sinasabi, "ang pogi ng asawa mo", sa isip ko naman, di ba ako maganda para makapag asawa ng pogi?...

Its been so many times na nahuli ko tong pogi kong asawa na may text or ka chat or ka bulungan sa phone, or saw a freakin' video pero inde ko pa rin hinihiwalayan. Tangga ba ako or sadyang tangga lang? Anyways, believe it or not, we're married for 8 years and been dating for 6 years before we tied the knot. So, it been a decade or so that I know this guy. Sinasabi ng mga ka berks ko na bat inde mo hinihiwalayan? Dahil ba sa mga bata?

Sa totoo? Inde ang mga bata ang dahilan, kaya kong buhayin mga anak ko (and he knows it). Mahal ko. Naiisip ko yung asawa ko nung bata super kulang sa pansin, na lahat ng attention sa older brother nya. And he was raised by his aunt and uncle together with 2 daughters (I'm not saying na panget pagpapalaki nila), but if you think of it, inde sya anak sa family where he grew up. The treatment can't be the ANAK way... So when he feels like he's on a spotlight it feeds his ego up to his neck and he loves every second of it. So.... in short KSP sya (kulang sa pansin)... whenever I challenge him to let go, he can't (or sadyang helpless lang sya). And when he say he loves me, he means it. And if you know the person for almost half of your life, you just know. No words need to utter, just the look and the way he helds you... you just know. Even your afar, you'll know if something is wrong or someone is getting on MY way. Maybe I'm too forgiving? Or talagang tangga lang ako? Or maybe eto ang few many reasons why he can't let go?

So this are those few things I always point out to my girly friends or guy fwends whenever they feel na niloloko sila ng mga bowabells or girlalu nila...

1. things you dont know wont hurt you.
2. wag mag usisa ng nakaraan... for sure masasaktan ka lang
3. wag gumawa ng fake friendster para lang manghuli
4. wag kaibiganin ang ex gf/bf --- kabaliwan to!
5. wag buksan ang emails ng bf/gf
6. wag makipag agawan ng cellphone sa bf/gf
7. dont talk about the past especially the incident when you caught him/her red handed --- mas maiging nakipag hiwalay ka na kesa nakipagbalikan di ba?
8. wag bantayan ang bawat oras/minuto ng girlalu or bowabells nyo
9. dont fight/ argue and have sexy time afterwards.. pag ka sorry lang bubukaka ka na jan... its so bakya!
10. be open minded --- forgive and learn (not forgive and forget right away...)

So, I hope this helps. Love is a two way street (I feel so cheezy), but if you start not to bring the past, this person will love you and will make every inch of effort to let you feel how sorry he/she that he/she cheated on you....